Always the same scenario – completely stressed out girls meet at Rickhouse after a horrible day full of intellectual discussions about economics and politics. They order lots of wine and instead of talking about really important stuff, they only have one topic: boys (if you are a boy, you should not read any further). Most of the time the conversation starts like this: Look what he texted me… What does he mean by that?… What should I answer?… Actually I am not interested… No, I am done with dating… Or should I tell him that I am gonna go out this weekend?… Should I send him a friend request?… What if he doesn’t confirm? Oh maaaan. And so it goes, the unhealthy over-analyzing: What if he is a player and he knows pretty well how to play the game?… I am definitely not falling for this… Who did he date in the past?… I am the complete opposite of his ex, what does that mean?… His text message is really cute, hmm, maybe he is a loser?… It always seems that the whole female company has lost its brain somewhere along the way. Pretty sad.
After years of pointless talks I can summarize it like this – most girls all over the world experience the same thing: all these constant questions, dubious games – everybody is looking for a strong shoulder to lean on, but completely without games the whole thing gets boring. And the drama… do not forget about the drama! Totally bonkers. Girls are looking for a prince charming on a white horse (preferably a Tesla if you are in California) with good manners and a premium family background. But please, he should not constantly text the girl, be desired and keep the girl on the hook. Honestly, what man is able to survive this hard balancing act between being a prince charming and a bad boy? No wonder the girls end up dating an illusion.
Many times you hear the following sentence: I am going to concentrate on my studies now. I don’t need a man in my life right now. Usually this attitude lasts until the next weekend. A clear sign of “I am too scared of taking risks. I am going to hide behind this statement because I am really bad in playing games and I don’t want to hit the wall again.” And all female friends respond something like this: “Don’t loose faith! Love will find you..” or whatever creative bulls**t. Girls are just so good in deceiving themselves.
And now I come to the point: Why all these senseless babble about men? Men don’t talk about women all day long either, they rather make the best of the situation, open a beer and chill. So why can’t we just all skip the game part and tell each other in the face: “Hey I like you.” (Or not.) Instead you rack your brain about what-if-situations, you try to drink your misery away with lots of shots and you kid yourself. So why not have the balls to take the risk? What could possibly happen? It might be worth it. At the worst you get drunk again because the ego got a few scratches. But it is easy to live with these scratches, not so much with a missed chance.
ali falls in love 